Many chinese cookbooks focus on what the Chinese actually eat. US chinese food is not particularly authentic in general. Sweet sauces with lots of meat are what the Chinese restaurateurs first succeeded in selling to the US palate.
I've not found a cookbook of restaurant style chinese food, but I've not looked for one either.
This doesn't really help you find what you're looking for, but it should help you understand why you haven't found what you want.
Give some Martin Yan cookbooks a try. He simplifies ingredients and techniques in ways that many home cooks find useful for cooking Chinese food themselves. His Chinatown cookbook is good but I like his "Invitation to Chinese Cooking" better. Those two books have a number of noodle dishes that should teach her about asian noodles and how to mix and match different items with noodles. That does require a little reading between the lines to figure out, i'll admit.
Phil |