Where to start? Right here, at ChefTalk!
The "best" school is the one where YOU learn the most, and get the most help for starting out -- and staying -- in this crazy business. What matters most is YOU: what you want to get out of school, and what effort you put into it.
If you read through the threads on this "Culinary Students" board, you'll find lots of help and answers to many of your questions. Other prospective students have had similar questions, and those of us who have been through school have shared our experiences.
Welcome! Stick around, the fun is only just starting for you.