Loud and obnoxious

[hapyegg]

yeah, maybe i'm being too focused on the girl. i was spending so much energy hating her but as my boyfriend said, i have no reason to give her power over me.

i am letting her get the best of me. She plays on her strengths while playing on my weaknesses. I ended up getting jealous and it made me lose my focus on what is important, learning more about cooking. Besides, with my blinders off now, I see that I really don't have anything to be jealous about. It's not a pretty sight seeing a young woman throw herself at everyone in the kitchen so that she will be liked. It's not a pretty sight to see the Exec Chef fall for it like a high schooler.

The EC is talented for sure but he's in his own world. he is always flirting and trying to date women in the restaurant. He will give that special personal attention to the female cooks he likes by giving them a one-on-one kitchen demo, asking them to accompany him on breaks, or inviting them for drinks after work. I know b/c I was one of them. I should be getting mad at him for perpetuating a culture of favoritism.

Anyways, i can't change them and I don't have to act like them. end of story. I'm leaving the kitchen in 3 weeks and will try to find a new place that makes great food and has a better work credo.

[MarkV]

Exactly my point Hapyegg. Your executive chef has helped create this monster.

Good luck to you. Let us know where you end up and how you are doing.

Mark

[keki60]

Just be yourself, let her do her thing eventually she will bury herself. I work with all guys and i can be crude but i also know where my lines are drawn. I have a lot more respect for myself and sounds like you do as well.


kelly