Help! I'm getting married - Page 2

We are from Massachusetts but are looking at places in RI (we live very close to it) and New Hampshire (dad and stepmom live up there) as well as Massachusetts. We can't please everyone--it's going to be sort of far away for some people and really close for others.

Ok, so I gave in like I always do...I am up at my mom's house now and we are going to look at wedding reception/ceremony places tomorrow, all in her central Massachusetts area...no Newport mansion wedding by the sea, no cute little New Hampshire inn, everything has to be centralized around mom because she is "throwing the party" for me. I always thought the one throwing the party would also be the one paying for it...but of course I didn't say that....
There also seems to be conflicting information from my father; he told me he would pay two thirds or so and I could pay the other part, but I guess he told mom we were each going to pay a third, or something...either way I guess I'm paying a third, so they can hash it out.
Also now she wants me and her to pick out 3 bridesmaid dress options and let my cousin pick from them. Is that a good idea? I'd much rather let my cousin totally pick her own because she knows best what she looks good in, but mom says her dress has to sort of match the style of my dress...I didn't really see any similarities at all between bridesmaid dresses and bride gowns but I guess it's a good idea to make sure she won't look better than I will... ;) And yes I am having one bridesmaid...she is the only appropriate female relative I have even seen in the last couple years. Wouldn't feel right asking the cousin I haven't seen in 10 years.
I drove up here earlier today and boy it was a headache...I can't stand driving 20 minutes to work twice a week and now I have to keep driving up here to make wedding plans. Looks like I am spending weeks at school and weekends at my mom's for the next year. Guess that will make me appreciate my fiance that much more when we get married!
Should I be more appreciative? Yes...probably...she wants to take control and I hate making plans so I should be happy that she wants to do it. Fine...but I draw the line at her attending the honeymoon :)

Wow, I totally forgot I posted this until I saw it near the top of the list!
It's coming up fast now, less than a month. Everything is falling into place except we have a couple of things to iron out with the mother in law. She is quite an irrational person and I don't think she understands she has no say in anything, especially since she is not willing to help with anything, even had to twist her arm to get her to help pay for the rehearsal dinner! I ended up sending the rehearsal invitations myself and everything. They will not be making any toasts at the dinner or the wedding reception, basically they want to be invisible and yet the mother threatens not to come if we do not seat her at the head table. Right now there are no parents at the head table, so it would just be her and her husband, me, the groom, the best man and maid of honor. My fiance went to Tennessee with them just a few days ago and said he would talk to her on the way back to make sure that's really what she wants, and then I will have to tell my mom, who of course wants everything done HER way (ie no parents at the head table at all)...They are on their way back now and I hope he doesn't forget.
Every other day there has been an issue with her not getting her way. We are getting down to the end now and I can't imagine what else she won't like but that's what I said at the beginning, too.
Just about everything else is hunky dory. I just need to order some shoes for when I change out of my gown before we leave. We need to get the marriage license--it's so hard for both of us to have time off together but we can probably get it done Thursday. We also need to make our hotel reservations for the night of and night after. I'm trying to give my fiance things to do because he kept asking if he could do anything, but when I give him things to do they don't get done.
The payment issue is resolved but I think my mom still thinks it's a surprise party or something...she always goes off about how she is throwing this party for me. Well I never heard of someone throwing a party and not doing what the honored person would like. I don't like the color of the maid of honor's dress (I wasn't even there when she bought it and I had no idea what it looked like until she showed me at her house, after she bought it) and of course everything at the wedding has to match that color. The color is magenta...what matches magenta? Other pinks...yippee. I snuck a note to the florist saying "Please lean towards purples"...I can deal with purple...
So I just hope a lot of the pictures are taken against a white background or something lol!
Remind me to never get married again :p I guess that's the idea!

Yeah I think it's too late :) Too many down payments paid, too many people coming out of their way to be there. I appreciate all the presents, and the TWO parties thrown for us so far (still no bachelorette party, LOL). We're already getting wedding presents in the mail, and mom says it's fine to open them as we get them, but I think my fiance wants to wait... :mad:
I don't know if my MIL will ever think I'm a good match. She doesn't even speak to half of her own family...I don't need her approval, but it sure would be nice! :D

Well I guess maybe the harder the planning is, the better it all ends up in the end, because really, nothing majorly bad happened. There was a little weird mixup with the music--they played the wrong song during the mothers' walk down the aisle, but who cares...The dj didn't play all the songs we had requested, but again, we barely noticed. The food was delicious. I had to try a bit of everything, except I missed one of the hors d'oeuvres and I only had one entree, lol..I suppose I could have asked for a little piece of beef but oh well. The swordfish was excellent as were the sides. The cake was amazing and so was the platter of cookies they put out. They had a chocolate-dipped cookie that tasted like coffee and absolutely melted in your mouth.
The ceremony went without a hitch and so did the reception. I was worried about the dances because we hadn't practiced even once but it went great. We are so happy and I can't believe it's over. I still keep thinking "I have to remember such and such at the wedding", and then I realize it has happened. Now we're getting ready to leave for Las Vegas bright and early tomorrow.
I got some amazing wedding presents, including a few family heirlooms--some china and a nice chair.
Gotta go--may post more later--