In every kitchen I have worked in, I have never "commanded" respect, I have EARNED it. After 25+ years, my name and reputation have earned the respect I am due. I never called myself "chef" until it was bestowed upon me by someine I respected. I still consider myself a cook and a teacher of food, but after many years of hard work, have earned the title "chef".
I agree too many young culinaruians are pushed too fast into upper positions, and never learn to respect those that came before. Look at all the Food Channel cooks (no I cannot call them chefs), they put out classic dishes as if they just invented something new! No respect for the CHEFS who actually did the work. I think every cook should spend some time in the dishroom, as a busser in the dining room, and most assuredly work their way through the kitchen. Then they are ready to suggest possible menu items to a manger for consideration as a weeknight special.
Keep your head and learn from the people you work for!