I am a female line cook and I am having difficulty in accepting another female co-worker's behavior. She is crass, loud, overtly sexy, and very un-P.C person. She however is also a **** good fast cook, very funny girl, and quite attractive. She is like a dude with a female body and doesn't hesitate whatsoever in playing up every quality she has.
She is very touchy-feely and gives massages and pats guys (and girls) on the butt. She is very talkative and knows how to both kiss up to people and also rag on people. She's got a quick tongue and she can charm her way into doing a little less work, having people get stuff for her, and getting out of a bind. It's all kind of fake and superficial but she sure is a popular girl.
It really drives me crazy b/c I just can't compete with her. Sure, I am a very reliable cook but I feel like if I need to stand out i need to start acting like her too. No way! I started falling into that trap and I ended up just getting the Executive Chef asking me to accompany him on his cigarette breaks and talking nasty to me. I don't want to use my body to turn other male cooks on, kiss them on the cheek, and sit on their lap. That's what she does!! I have become quite confused, upset, and very reclusive. It doesn't get me popularity points but I do keep my nose out of trouble and just in the food.
I just don't think it's fair to others to act this way. Even other guys in the kitchen are upset at her --that is until she goes up to them and rubs up against them and massages their back and etc, etc etc.
She is the darling of every executive chef, chef instructor, and competition judge I have met so far that has a raging libido. She in turn, gets to learn from all these chefs, be in the know, and get out of work a lot earlier and more often than the rest of us.
It's serving her very well, but for me and perhaps the rest of the "little" people in the kitchen, I don't know how to deal! What do you all think?