SO.... I told my mother that I want to change directions in life. For the past two and a half years I have been going to school for a History degree, but I really hate it now. It has become obvious that I needed a change, and because cooking has been a great interest of mine, I decided to start culinary school.
I cook regularly, learn as much as I can, and enjoy it thoroughly. I am generally a motivated person but the past few years have been really bad for me. As far as cooking, I do have a small amount of experience and I strive to learn as much as possible about the subject. Its really the only thing I have passion for these days. Of course, my mother does not share my passion and thinks that my idea is foolish. She is pushing as hard as she possibly can against it, saying that she refuses to co-sign my loans or help pay for any of my schooling if I make this move. For me, it was a brutal blow, but not a fatal one. I have resolved to go, no matter what. She wasn’t impressed by my persistence as much as she was angered and discussions about the issue have reached a stand-still.
The main point of contention is that she thinks I am wasting my time, money, and effort to do something that will not yield a decent career. She thinks I need to stay on my current path no matter how miserable I am. To graduate on time, I would have to overload on courses and take summer classes and still would be one semester behind. My liberal arts experience has really left me with a bad taste in my mouth and I want to end it ASAP and change. She doesn’t see this and just thinks I am being lazy however.
Some on my family believe I am making this change just to prolong my college experience and avoid work, but quite frankly, the thing that interests me most about the school I have chosen is their internship program, a chance to get hands on and actually work. Unfortunately, no matter what I tell my mother, she hears nothing of it. I tell her I want to work, and she tells me "I'll believe it when I see it." I tell her that cooking is both my passion and my destiny and she tells me its all a bunch of malarkey.
To try and discourage me, she explains how rotten a job I am going to have. She says 'you are going to school just to be a cook at friendly's!' I have talked to many people as well as reading posts and this is not a whimsical decision. I am making it with conviction and passion. I know it may be hard, I know it may be dirty. I know I may have to work long hours peeling potatoes or de-shelling shrimp when I start. I don’t have delusions of grandeur, I am as realistic as I can be, but I still have the passion. I know the cons, but she doesn’t realize how much I have thought, researched, and even prayed about this situation.
I really want to do this and nothing can stop me, but how do I convince my mom its worthwhile? I am thinking about just telling her to leave me by myself. I love her, but this is what I need to do, even if she disapproves.
Any advice, positive or negative is appreciated.