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quitting gracefully

post #1 of 7
Thread Starter 
OK, I hate the idea of throwing in the towel, but how much to you share with your employer about why you are giving notice?

I currently work for a bakery in a small tourist town and my situation is intensely frustrating. What I am doing now isn't anything resembling what I hired on for and my boss is so, to be polite, scatterbrained I just can't function. Plus I hired on to make quality items from scratch and she's now cheaping out. It's been impossible.

Would love to hear some instances about how and why you decided to move on.


post #2 of 7
I've burnt a lot of bridges in my time, and boy was it ever satisfying to slam that door. But I am older and wiser now, and lets face it, it's a very incestuous industry. You must, repeat MUST leave with a smile, and a thank you for the opportunity, and the impression that you are helping them find a replacement for you, even if you're not. You are "leaving to pursue other opportunities for growth" is all they need to know. You will not singlehandedly change their ways, nor is it your job to tell them how to run their business. People never remember how you worked but they always remember how you left. Best of luck to you...
post #3 of 7
I'd only bow out gracefully depending on the terms of me leaving and what I would expect from my employer like a reference on my resume or such. But regardless on how I leave things with my employer, I won't divulge much information as to why I'm leaving simply because I don't believe they need to know or have the right to be that nosy, its my prerogative. I'd be honest but nothing detailed at the very least but again, that only depends on the situation.
post #4 of 7
It's a strange business and every situation is different. Bowing out gracefully is always most desired. But be careful there too. I tried once and gave two weeks notice only to be fired on the spot. I hurt the owners feelings. Plus I was looking forward to that last two weeks pay.
post #5 of 7
I agree with Anneke's advice. I have certainly been temped to let previous chef's know my frustrations, but it just won't be worth it.
I am continually amazed at what a small world this industry is, especially at some of the higher-end places. I am in Vegas, working with a cook just in from NYC and he is complaining about his last chef, who happens to be the husband of my first pastry chef, who I worked with in California. Yeah, it's weird.
I have seen people burn their bridges and it's not worth it. The only time it would be good to share those kinds of details with a boss, is if you think there is a chance of changing things for the better and you would be willing to stay on. It doesn't sound like this is the case, so leave quietly and dive in to your next opportunity.
post #6 of 7
Weird! I'm in the EXACT situation (well, almost). I am also working in a touristy town and I was hired from day one. As the kitchen manager, I'm doing a smashing job, but it's getting old and I am also in line for the chef at the cafe she is opening up next door. I'm not happy with the cafe set up, and I don't like the way she is planning on doing things (no room for prep, terrible dishwashing area, etc. Lots of problems). Now that I found out the cafe can't open soon because of permits, I am thinking of leaving all together. I need more challenges. I told her that I am committed to staying until I have to leave (which will be in about a year), but now we have hired and trained someone to take over for me when I move to the cafe. This is actually a great time for me to leave! However, it would place such a heavy burden on her knowing that she has to look outside for someone else to run the cafe. She is not only my boss, but she has become my friend and she's also very emotional/reactionary/impulsive. I know she wouldn't fire me right there, but she would probably feel deceived and maybe offended since I said I would stay and I'm the person who has been there the longest. I feel like I am going back on my word, but I also feel like I'm going insane. What also sucks is that I can't tell my fellow co-workers who became good friends; I can only confide in my husband. It's a little complicated, but I do agree with the "they remember how you left" part. I do need a little guidance like you and I'm looking forward to some more "educated" responses! Thanks for posting this :)
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post #7 of 7
Thread Starter 

Thank you all

And I absolutely agree with each and every suggestion. The whole heart of my being from culinary passion is to hope that they will take anything I say to heart. Unfortunately, it's sad but the owners of the bakery are clueless and content to remain that way. That is to say, they are content to flail around with lack of focus or direction. She's been doing it for 4 years now and has a problem with becoming enamored with her staff. Meaning she (literally) has 2 hippy types, one a self acclaimed pot-head who has no clue about kitchens and comes to work stoned or huffs empty whipped cream containers...provided by the espresso dude (nicknamed Turtle) who USED to be a druggie a few years back, but she LOVES them! Me, I do the solid kitchen thing and I'm completely overlooked in all respects.

Harpua, I do want to caution about them owning the other cafe. My bosses own the ice cream/grill next door as well and it became awkward. My daughter worked for them and I worked the grill temp. They kept cutting back my hours until it wasn't worth the trouble to keep track of what day or two I was expected to come in. Meaning they kept changing the days and it would be 2 or 3 hours...maybe...and I couldn't get a decent p/t job to work around the hours they gave me. My daughter quit and they then cut me out completely.

Now my bakery position cut back an hour from 5am to 6am and she only uses me when she's desperate. Which is ironic in that I am the best and fastest cook and cake decorator she's got. It's not sour grapes when I say that the stuff she allows out the door (not done by me) could be done by a 10 year old. Like I said before, she just wants quick and cheap.

In any event, like I said, I definitely appreciate the reality check. Yeah, there's no way anything I say or do will change the way they do things at this point.


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