I have to disagree with this. I have never experienced this but this is probably because I'm the TypeA personality and husband is TypeB. I ask more questions, and my husband lets me take the lead most of the time whenever dealing with salespeople etc. Funny but waiters always bring the check to me. I must seem like a real ball buster to these folks.
My point is people's attention is directed towards the more engaging person, which has nothing to do with whether you're a man or woman. Try it as an experiment and see what happens. Be one of those people who when they talk people listen.
When you're a female, you have to "seem like a real ball buster". If you don't, they'll focus on the male. Try an experiment of your own. Be equally as engaging as the male, not more so. Don't outdo the male with your ball busting behavior and see what happens. You'll be ignored. I've done this experiment and it is amazing. I myself have had to become a "ball buster".