It's pretty expensive but if it lasts as long as they say, Swiss Diamond HD Pro, intended for professional chefs, seems very good. It just became available. It's about $170 for a 10-inch fry pan, built like a battleship and with a very long handle. It has a much thicker non-stick coating than previous SD products and the HD (high density) coating is claimed to survive twice as many abrasive scrapes as the current models. A home line, HD is coming out later this year.
The existing line has received many rave reviews on other sites.
Another good line is the current Anolon non-stick. Quite heavy, and priced for home use, though it costs around $50 and isn't in the price range of cheapie throw-away pans or restaurant supply store pans.
No pan, however, will take the kind of abuse you report. They have to be treated with care and washed with warm, soapy water and a soft brush after each use to avoid food build up, and should not be used above medium heat for best lifespan.
Disclaimer: I have neither connection nor financial interest in either firm, though I own both products and, as they say, so far so good.
By the way, the HD Pro line just went into distribution and is hard to find yet. I got mine from Cooking Enthusiast www.cookingenthusiast.com which seems to carry many interesting, though upscale products,