At home cook here too - its a different kind of peeves for me than in a pro kitchen, but similar I guess.
-People putting used cups & plates etc on my clean boards
-Knives going into the dishwasher, then whinging when I have to re-sharpen them because of the noise it makes
-Someone clearing out the dishwasher, then stuff ends up in all the wrong place, and I gotta spend ages hunting something down...grrrr
-Telliing people dinner will be ready in 10 mins, so please finish off what you are doing - and waiting 20 mins after having to nag - I don't make a nice dinner so it can go cold and spoil. Me not hungry by then
-Texting or answering the phone during dinner - arggh
-Someone promising to do the dishes, then in the morning - hey - guess what? They're where I rinsed and stacked them still
-Empty beer/wine/soft drink bottles left cluttering up my bench space
-Bags of bread left unsealed
.....I could continue, but it's making me angry thinking about it lol