I've been trained in other things with nasty people who yell and get in your face about things. I'd go home with entire square feet of my body covered in bruises, bloody, my ears ringing for a week after, etc. You know, it was hell, but I learned a ton. I was focused, dedicated, and motivated. Competing and performing on demand seemed like a breeze compared to practice. I thank my brutal trainers for that, and I don't buy into the concept that self-esteem is a great thing.
At the same time, I realize that this approach breaks some people. If you're going to run a high pressure business though, shouldn't pressure increase your drive to achieve? I know my best performance has been under the highest levels of stress.
Of course I'm not trying to contradict you here to be nasty; just offering another perspective.
I agree to a certain point......
I had pots and pans thrown at me .....called every name in the book..even thrown off the line into the dish pit for a week!
I sucked it up! I was told "those looks arn't going to get you everywhere!" It was a very hard to be in the kitchen 25 years ago as a woman. But it did toughen me up oh boy did it!
And now.....I think it softened me to be a better chef and work with my employees....cheer them on for their accomplishments...not criticize so much...because I remember what it is like to be there and how I felt.
Maybe my Chefs when I was apprenticing did it for a reason ....make my skin a little thicker...I still wonder