NO! I am a perfectionist.
So? How does that apply to wanting a black waiter? Or, being dismisive of divorced women as servers out of hand?
No one stopped you from saying you wanted a good waiter and didn't want a bad waiter. You gratuitiously supplied "black" and "divorcee." No doubt your own perfectionism ensures that what you said was exactly what you intended.
Speaking of perfectionism, the word is cummerbund, not cumberbun.
I guess if I said I prefer a woman to sleep with and a man to go hunting and fishing with and a Japanese restaurant to order sushi from i would be a racist and sexist too.
This is a deflection, but let's address your question anyway.
Being "discriminatory" means making choices, it doesn't necessarily mean being racist, sexist, anti-semitic or other invidious forms of discrimination.
That you choose to sleep with a woman makes you heterosexual, not sexist.
That you prefer male companionship when doing activities not related to gender is a little more complicated. Let's assume arguendo that your reasons are not sexist, save the bandwidth, and move on to a simpler analysis.
Your expression "Japanese restaurant" is unclear. If you mean you prefer to order sushi in a restaurant which specializes in Japanese food, that's not racist. And by the way, Japanese restaurants specializing in sashimi and sushi are called "sushi-ya." Most regular Japanese restaurants in this country either don't serve raw fish or don't do as good a job at it. Specialization has its benefits, and it pays to be discriminatory.
If you mean Japanese sushi chefs, by virtue of being Japanese are the best sushi chefs, while people of other ethnic backgrounds are somehow handicapped in pursing the activity, that is not only racist but parochial, ignorant, unsophisticated and wrong.
In Los Angeles, the majority of sushi/sashimi places are Korean owned. There is even a specialty style of Korean restaurant called "Japanese Restaurant" which is a fusion. The best Korean "Japanese Restaurants" are the equal to the best purely Japanese sushi-ya, and as good or better than anyplace anywhere in this country including Urusawa, Nobu and Morimoto. Of course, by virtue of your perfectionism, you already knew that.
This all begs the larger question: If you're not implying "black" is somehow related to being a good waiter, why bring it up at all?
I ask because that, my friend, IS racist.
BDL