Well, some truly interesting meals presented.
I had cast my vote for Shroomgirl's menu. For me it was primarily a choice between her's and ChefEd's.
I felt that Ed's menu was celebratory, but not necessarily romantic. And there was just too much of it. Romantic food should contribute to the personal feelings and promote the love people feel for each other. Friend Wife and I would founder ourselves if we ate that much heavy food. Ed's menu is something I would put together to celebrate a winter event; perhaps a winter solstice party. But I find it hard to think of it as romantic.
Shroomgirl's, on the other hand, was a near perfect mix. As a menu, per se, each course flowed naturally into the next. It had physically less food, and the components were generallly lighter and more sensual. And let's not underplay the sensual. A romantic dinner should not only stand on its own, it should contribute to, indeed there should be a casual relationship, between the food and whatever comes after. And I felt Shroomgirl's menu did that better than any of the others.
That aside, I think there is one general conclusions we can draw. Seems to me the consensus is that whatever comes between them, a romantic dinner should start with shellfish, and end with a rich, gooey, prefereably chocolaty dessert.