Since getting into the hospitality workforce, I accepted the fact that serious relationships don't often work. Most of my fellow cooks and chefs within my circle are either single or divorced with only 1 or 2 still married but under a very unique circumstance (guys wife is 15 years younger then him, stay-at-home wife type) so I never really saw myself getting into one. Plus the fact that I rarely get to meet girls let alone one that would accept me as who I am and what I do so the whole dating thing is also new to me.
Well just over a month ago, I was introduced to someone though a web of contacts by a close family friend like how most of us Chinese get hooked up. We've only met up twice but supposedly I left a good impression; my aunt (related by marriage thankfully) maintains a level of contact with her through QQ which is the Chinese equivalent to Facebook so that info came through her. The feeling is mutual. Now contact is a bit hard for me to maintain; QQ is entirely in Chinese and I can't read any of it, I have her MSN address but I don't use MSN, and I have her cell# but our jobs make it hard to keep in touch that way also plus she doesn't have voicemail. Her work has her home by 10pm and I'm told she does long hours 6 days a week, this is something I only just found out but I know what its like. I've made roughly 9 calls to her total; 1 was answered, 1 callback, the rest were unanswered. Given this information, I've been told by many others that this won't work or the facts seem to point to a lack of interest by her.
Now like I said, I'm not very adept at this as I've never been even been on a real date. I really don't want to write this off so quickly but at the same time, I'm having the same doubts. I'll be giving her a couple more calls before I make a final decision but I'd like some outside opinions on this, be brutally honest if you have to. Am I being too hasty? Is this typical for those of you who are in a successful relationship?
