Guilt over pleasure is a completely separate thing Siduri. I don't feel such thing over pleasure, I think that stems from America's puritanical beginnings. I wasn't born/raised here and I don't feel guilt about going out on a weeknight, or having a glass of wine at lunchtime like so many people I know do. Getting physically hurt is completely different because it's an accident. Of course I wouldn't feel guilty if I sprained my ankle while skiing. In fact I'd rather sprain my ankle skiing than not sprain my ankle sitting on a couch. But guilt over food? It's there, and I don't think I can explain it properly. Unless you've battled addiction, being overweight , unless you've suffered from an eating disorder, body image issues, or discrimination based on weight then I can imagine it would be extremely difficult to understand the guilt associated with addiction altogether. And pleasure associated with food is questionable, because it is assumed the more the better. Well, it's not true for me and though my brain understands that a bowl of pasta is much more enjoyable if I have it sparingly, my cravings don't understand that. So I was at Mario and Lidia's market eatery "Eataly" the other day and had a plate of pasta with sugo di mare and it was fabulous. But I really can't have enough of that stuff and it immediately steers me into having pasta the next day too! I have to fight that urge every single time I have simple carbs like that. Once in a while we go to a local brunch place that makes the most amazing blueberry pancakes and I indulge without guilt! And then for a couple of days I have to work hard to reign in my cravings for more sweets and baked goods. That's where the guilt comes in, because most of the time I'm pretty good about getting back on track but there are sometimes when it's a slippery slope and I spend the next few days eating chocolate chip muffins lol. It's gotten a lot easier now that I'm older and a mother and thinking about my health very seriously but when I was younger and didn't care about that sort of thing I didn't care about what I ate.
Then of course you have the people who really don't understand how difficult it is for some of us and are food pushers. You don't say to an alcoholic "oh come on, one little drink won't hurt you" or to a drug addict "just take a little pain medication for that!" because their goal is to abstain abstain abstain and everyone accepts it. Anorexia and bulemia are accepted as food disorders but compulsive eaters, food addicts or whatever you want to call themget a bad rap because #1 people think they're just making up their food disorder just so they can eat a lot, many think that it's an excuse to be a fat lazy slob, or an excuse to indulge in weakness. They're also have to hear stupid things like "have just a little, it won't kill you!" or get upset when you refuse a slice of their homemade apple pie. Anyway, like I said it's very difficult to explain when so many people don't really believe that these types of compulsions exist.
I don't doubt for a second that there are people out there who can eat what they want and run a few miles a week and maintain their weight. But for them to actually believe that everyone can be like that is weird. Without taking into account genetics, environment, education, culture, stress/anxiety, and psychological pre-dispositions it's absurd to have a one-size-fits all method of well-being or weight maintenance. I'm not willing to pass judgment on how difficult that must be for you, and I don't think it's fair for anyone to compare their difficulties with the difficulties of others. Plain as day I can see that some people can go days without eating if they're feeling a lot of stress over something (like a divorce etc). It's totally obvious that that happens, of course I cannot wrap my mind around it because in times of stress I reach for food, but I cannot ignore the reality that other people deal with food in a different manner. What point is there to argue against the validity of their actions?
Edited by Koukouvagia - 10/9/13 at 6:35am