I am a woman.
I am a cook.
I work with a great group of guys, including my Lead Chef.
While I was on-line a guy who was on 2nd shift told me not to touch his "****** tickets" I had been "touching tickets" all day putting them up and doing my job. I have worked with this A-O for 3 shifts (...usually he's at a different restaurant). I feel like I'm inheriting a problem child. He put his finger an inch away from my face as well and repeated "Don't touch my ****** tickets." and I told him if he did that again I'd bite it off. Needless to say I have a temper when I am disrespected... He has also told me things like "I'm not slicing *****!" I wish I could terminate him because he's poison but I can't. Chef and I talked and I apologized for loosing my temper. He understood. I was honest with him when he hired me and told him that I have a temper and don't like being disrespected. The other guy decided to come over as we were talking and I just said "You have a good night". The truth of the matter is that he is rude and probably just an A-O as mentioned earlier. I hate conflict at work. Day one that he started he was gunning for me. I don't want to be friendly with him, cooking is my job...not straightening out degenerates. Needless to say I wish I was a man because I'd wait for him in the ally and beat the snot out of him for disrespecting me that way. Frankly it frustrates me to think I'll see his face at work. I just don't want to let my anger and frustration limit me at work. I usually stay beyond my hours to help and love being productive and want to do and learn more in the restaurant. Chef is aware of what is going on...we touched base for like a minute. I don't want to draw this out...I also don't want to pretend everything is ok. I have brain stormed every idea from beating him up to providing him with psycho-therapy to talking to my boss. Any advice you have to offer that has any sort of substance would be great. I'm sure a lot of you have dealt with gems like this guy and I'd LOVE to know how you succeeded with out having to go to extremes. I really like everything else about my place of work. I haven't gotten into detail about what has happened between A-O and I with Chef. I've dealt with difficult people before but we worked it out and worked well together in the end. This guy really seems to hate women i.e. me.