Originally Posted by durangojo
Long but funny. Boy could the perfectionist in me relate!!!!
Dinner is at 2:00. Not 2:15. Not 2:05. Two. Arrive late and you get what’s left over.
4. Grandmothers give grandchildren cookies and candy. That is a fact of life. Your children can eat healthy at your home. At my home, they can eat whatever they like as long as they finish it.
9. Being a mother means you have to actually pay attention to the kids. I have nice things and I don’t put them away just because company is coming over. Mary, watch your kids and I’ll watch my things.
6. Salad at Thanksgiving is a waste of space.
11. Words mean things. I say what I mean. Let me repeat: You don’t need to bring anything means you don’t need to bring anything. And if I did tell you to bring something, bring it in the quantity I said. Really. This doesn’t have to be difficult.
Haha, these are funny. Are they your rules? I just have to comment because some of these are so outrageous in other cultures they'd never fly!
Dinner at 2:00. Greek people are late, many cultures have this lateness thing. It's like a contest to see who can arrive the latest. If I'm serving dinner at 7pm I actually tell everyone that it is 6pm. It's the only way to ensure that I don't lose my mind trying to keep things warm. So basically I lie, and even so someone is always late past 7pm. This would drive you crazy with these rules but really, all you have to do is lie and save yourself the heartache.
Candy - don't you know that people don't give candy anymore? My son has never even had candy. He's had a few bites of dark chocolate and he loves it, it's a special treat and we don't keep any visible around the house. We throw away all our Halloween candy. Sugar affects kids, it's a leading problem that can and does exacerbate attention deficit, and is quite addictive too which can make it a very hard habit to break later down the line. If Mommy says no candy then Mommy's word is final. I don't understand why Grandmothers feel they are higher on the totem pole. And don't get me started on "finishing everything on your plate." I'm not even slightly tolerant of this mindset. I never want anyone telling me I have to finish everything on my plate. I eat as much as I can and don't feel the slightest bit guilty about leaving a bit of food. I'm not a proud member of the Clean Your Plate Club and will not force my kid to be either. I don't buy into the whole starving african kids thing because the remnants on my plate will never reach them anyway. I'm pretty good about gauging how much food I think I can eat but sometimes I'm wrong, and there's no need for anyone to develop a food disorder in order to clean their plate. Besides, giving candy to a child seems pleasurable but then again, Grandmas aren't the ones that have to then settle that kid for bed do they? Which brings me to the next point:
Mother's job of looking after kid amongst "nice things" - Having a toddler is surely a very hard thing as anyone can imagine. Holiday parties are by far the worst most horrible place I go with my son. Because nobody but me has the responsibility of looking after him, especially if he's being given candy and bouncing off the walls. My entire holiday consists of trying to subdue my kid from touching all of grandma's nice (heavy and dangerous) knick knacks. Don't touch this, don't touch that, leave that wine glass alone, come sit for dinner, I have to sit in the kitchen to feed him because there's no place for a 2yr old at the table, no highchair in sight which means he's a flight risk. 2hrs at grandma's house for Tday and I'm still recovering. Thanks Grandma for all your help. I don't even get to eat really.
Salad - it's like my favorite part of the meal! I don't eat the goopy stuffing that comes out of the bird's butt, nor do I eat much of the dry turkey. I live on ham and salad.
In my culture, showing up to any dinner party empty handed is quite rude. Everybody says "please don't bring anything" and then if you show up with nothing you're a miser. Dessert, wine, a loaf of bread, a salad, a side dish even if it mirrors another side dish are not only welcome, but expected.