I'm a 21 year old female line cook and I received a promotion about a month ago as one of the Sous Chefs at my work.
This came as a surprise because I happen to be the youngest in the kitchen out of 10, majority of them 26 year olds, all of them men.
This also came with the responsibility to be in charge and run the kitchen while the head chef is gone on Thursday nights. This is a big responsibility because on Thursday nights, the theater next door has special events and our dinner rush can be insane.
The other night, and consistently for the last month, these Thursdays have not gone as smooth for me as I thought. I've been running around trying to coordinate between stations while plating and picking up dishes here and there to help the guy get out of the weeds.
I started to become increasingly upset the more behind we became and the longer the ticket times became.
At first I thought I was failing at my job. This didn't help with the stress of the situation.
I asked for the help of my older, male sous chef.
I stayed off the clock one day to watch how he ran the evenings and see if I could pick up a few things that I haven't been doing properly.
He (seriously) didn't do anything different than what I did. They gave him proper call backs and listened to everything he said.
Here is where I need advice:
I hate to throw out the SEXUALITY card but could it be that I'm a girl that these guys have a problem with me?
Could it be they're purposely moving slow just to kill me off?
Am I just trying too hard?
How can I get these guys to listen and show respect to me? Do I deserve their respect?