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On a ledge... need talking down.

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#4 ·
Well first if I had my choice of catering or restaurant cook/chef Id take catering any day but that's me...

I left a job after 2 months, for different reasons--its tough to do, but I agree there's no future for you here,

only misery and more misery. Not only do I doubt you'll ever be paid what you're worth but its likely

the chef will raise the kidass and leave you where you are. What would you do then? Quit? Some things

are "inevitable Mr Anderson."/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif

So when you do leave, I would tell your Chef (if he even cares) that in your opinion the way he's running the kitchen is

foolhardy and he's heading fro trouble down the road. And that you have far too much self respect to keep your wagon

hitched to a sinking ship, skippered by a Captain who lies.

Oh and my ex employer lied to me too BTW. Luck.
 
#6 ·
Don't walk- run from that place!  Sounds like a hellhole.  You have to have some pride in your job to look at yourself in the mirror each morning.
 
#7 ·
This happens all the time. Employers interview folks, make all kinds of promises (with vague qualifiers) to get them to sign on, then don't deliver.

Set your rate value for yourself and stick to it from the get go. If they want you, they will negotiate.

Every employer knows how hard it is to hire and retain good employees. If you are that good, they will do what they can to keep you.

It's less expensive to pay a good employee more than to hire a bunch of "bodies" and be in a state of perpetual training with revolving door staff.
 
#13 ·
Good to hear you're feeling relieved about it all.

And even better to know we helped a bit.

From what you've said, I have no doubt your ex Chef will quickly come to regret

that last hug, when he realized the SS he opted for over you is exactly that.

I foresee a firm forehead slapping in his near future. lol
 
#15 ·
Good for you. The days of the misogynistic testosterone fueled kitchen need to be gone. I don't care if your reproductive organs are internal or external as long as you ain't sinking the ship.
 
#16 ·
What a nice way to end it, giving a hug , good on you !

No regrets, have no regrets. Move on with your career and chuck it all up to experience .

Way to go, feels good I'm sure .
What @petalsandcoco said. Onward and upward. The hug.... you are classy!
 
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Sorry but to me it sounds like you have a slight attitude problem. Just because you have been in business longer then others does not mean you have the right to judge them.  That's the Chefs job. The chef should teach and explain to him regarding shallots not  you. Just do your job and stop worrying about everyone else.  By you telling chef this ones no good and that one is this or that , remember  he hired them and may  take your comments to mean  he doesn't  know what he is doing. I suggest you quit.

Start your next position by going in doing the work assigned and not judging or complaining. If you are good be it male or femle. it will be noticed and rewarded.
 
#20 ·
There's no need to overcompensate for your sex. Don't let it put a chip on your shoulder. Some people are gay, some are black, some are short, some are so perfect it makes everyone around them feel inadequate (my own personal cross to bear) the more you point out your differences the more people will notice them. I think ED was simply pointing out this chip on your shoulder, and you became abusive and defensive.
 
#21 ·
Anyone that's spent any serious time in a pro kitchen knows sexism is rampant.  Sure, there are good kitchens but the bad ones outnumber the good in this respect.  YMMV.
 
#25 ·
Ladies and Gentlemen, please watch your language, some of the remarks are pushing the border of common decency.

Remember, if you have an issue with a specific user, take it to the PM (private message). Otherwise...
 
#26 ·
I've worked with many women in the kitchen, I've had several female Chefs, one female F & B, several female owners.  None of them ever had the need to point out that they were woman and I was a man.

The other observation I made--regardless if they were male or female, is that the ones in supervisory positions, or the ones moving into supervisory positions knew enough to not make statements like "I'm much better than him/her". 
 
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