It is all in what you bring into the job is what you get out of it. If you are walking into a kitchen with a big chip on your shoulder about..............(fill in the blank) then that is more of what you are going to get handed back to you.
If you are thinking that the rest of the kitchen thinks that because you are female you are incapable, then that is EXACTLY what you will receive.
If you think that others are the problem and do not do as you think they should and you are adamant that you are right, then that is EXACTLY what you will receive in return.
Energy follows thought and people can pick that up easily in a close environment such as kitchens. Check your attitude and chips at the door before you walk through it. THIS IS A TEAM ENVIRONMENT AND NOT ONE MAN NOR WOMAN IS AN ISLAND! Even with my 30 odd years in the kitchen I do not DARE to presume that I know everything and that is that. If I did I would have never succeeded the way I have nor would I have made it in business. So stop your winge-ing (whining) about how you THINK others should be or act or do things and start to live with integrity by walking the talk. Only then will you notice that others will respect you and follow your lead. There is a saying: two ears, two eyes, one mouth; only by shutting the later does one start to truly learn.
Also, if you really have an issue with anyone in your workforce, you must first record the incidences, then approach and have a conversation with the offending individual; if the does not work then take your records and your complaint to your boss and have a conversation with them with the promise of a follow up conversation on what was done about the incidences. If you CHOOSE to NOT do this at all the you DO NOT have a right to complain. Again, it is all about integrity.
This all being said, I truly empathize about working in environments that are not positive however, like I said above, what you bring to the table is exactly what you will receive. Choose the positivity or get out of that space of negativity. Yup, soapbox moment over
PS: I am a woman that in all my years of working in this type of environment have only had 1 incidence where I was treated unfairly because of my gender. Once I sat down with the offender and had a conversation like adults about the behaviour and treatment, we were able to see eye to eye and work well together. We were never friends but we both saw work as a priority and that is where we were able to get around our differences.