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Domestic Violence Escapee, Not Just A Cook

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Hi Chefs & colleagues.

Sometimes it's time to get real. It's not all mirepoix and savory black garlic. Sometimes real life takes precedence.

Four days ago, I escaped domestic violence. I took my 8 year son, important paperwork and the clothes on our backs. I left everything else. Everything. I am a Chef without a single knife, spice or pan.

When I called my job (restaurant name withheld, located in Baltimore, MD) and informed them that I had been in a domestic violence situation, I was fired on the spot. The owner actually hung up on me.

It is Easter Sunday morning here. My son and I are in a safehouse. We are without home, employment and possessions.

I am so sad, you guys.

I am trying to focus on the holiday & it's promises. But I can't stop crying today.

Anyway, I felt lead to post this message on this site. We want a fresh start, someplace new. There is nothing holding us in Baltimore. We are ready to begin anew. If anyone has a word for us, anyone knows an opportunity, we would love to hear from you.

Thank you for reading. God bless you so much. Happy Easter.
Edited by joysmithwade - 3/27/16 at 5:51pm
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Call the EEOC and the ACLU. They'll mess up your old boss really good.

EEOC Home Page: http://www.eeoc.gov/

American Civil Liberties Union: https://www.aclu.org/
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Best of luck to you and your son. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time.
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Agree, file immediately. And hopefully your ex boss is a sole proprietorship,
and you can sue him for a million, maybe get a hundred grand or so.
Or even better, his business, his house......and his ass.
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BTW, I agree about filing a suit. If that was the reason you were terminated it is both illegal and immoral. Beware though... If you said you could not come to work (for whatever reason) they might try o turn that against you and claim termination for cause. I hope you don't get into that kind of a mess, though. I was a juror on a similar type of employment discrimination/termination suit and it was very ugly.
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Hi joysmith,

Firstly, let me say I am proud and in awe of you for leaving an abusive relationship.

Secondly, your boss is a jerk.

Thirdly, in spite of your boss's actions, there is some logic to them.

Without some kind of a peace bond/restraining order, your "ex" will, in all probability, use your workplace to intimidate you. If that fails, then to intimidate your co workers and your boss himself. He (ex)will also use your child's school to intimidate.

In a perfect world your boss should have offered you unpaid leave, paid leave, family emergency or compassionate leave. To fire you is wrong. But in all fairness, without a peace bond or restraining order in place, you should't be at work.
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Originally Posted by joysmithwade View Post

Hi Chefs & colleagues.

Sometimes it's time to get real. It's not all mirepoix and savory black garlic. Sometimes real life takes precedence.

Four days ago, I escaped domestic violence. I took my 8 year son, important paperwork and the clothes on our backs. I left everything else. Everything. I am a Chef without a single knife, spice or pan.

When I called my job ((EDIT of my own) restaurant name withheld, located in Baltimore, MD) and informed them that I had been in a domestic violence situation, I was fired on the spot. The owner actually hung up on me.

It is Easter Sunday morning here. My son and I are in a safehouse. We are without home, employment and possessions.

I am so sad, you guys.

I am trying to focus on the holiday & it's promises. But I can't stop crying today.

Anyway, I felt lead to post this message on this site. We want a fresh start, someplace new. There is nothing holding us in Baltimore. We are ready to begin anew. If anyone has a word for us, anyone knows an opportunity, we would love to hear from you.

Thank you for reading. God bless you so much. Happy Easter.


Should legal action ensue you might want this original post removed asap.


Edited by kokopuffs - 3/27/16 at 6:04pm

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Best and I'm a foodie.   I know very little but the little that I know I want to know very well.

 

-T

Brot und Wein
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