So i will try and keep this brief but give you as many details at the same time. Im 24 years old and have been livening in Raleigh NC for the past 2.5 years. I live with my girlfriend of seven years who moved in with me shortly after i moved down here from NY. She has some family close by and wasn't loving her job in the big apple when i was leaving so i knew she wouldn't be long after me. It has been great living with her. I mean we have our issues but every couple does. With the time iv been off lately iv been spending a lot of time with her i know she is THE ONE. But I moved down here to work under a mentor of mine i had during culinary school who made a bunch of promises about how good it would be to work here and how he could teach me so much. Well it didn't work out as i hoped and he had promised however i did grow in my career and definitely learned a lot. However after this chef moved on to better things (without really a heads up) i left the property as well. I wasn't really happy there and without my mentor i didn't see the point i wasn't there to learn and work for the sous chef (who was not qualified at all) i picked up my life and moved for my mentor. Now months latter my mentor is offering me a great opportunity. A sous chef position for a highly regarded resort where i would be working alongside him in opening and operating multiple outlets through out the property. So a lot more responsibility but the pay is right and im up for the opportunity and the challenges. However this resort is 6hrs from where i live and my girlfriend does not want to move... she has moved once for me in the past and does not want to do it agin. I totally understand where she is coming from, i love our place i love our city and i love that we have family close. But now that i know this opportunity is out there i cain't forget about it .. going on interviews and looking at job postings don't seem to pop at me as much as this offer does. But im so invested into both the job offer and my relationship. I worked 7 years to get to this point me and my girlfriend are at. Lots of long distance and heartache and even more great times wonderful memories. But i also missed out on a lot because i was so invested in my job. I worked for my mentor and the company for a combined 3.5 years. Never late, never called out, always early stayed late whenever i had to without being asked worked every holiday, anniversary and birthday. Even clocked out and continued to work to make sure my mentor didn't catch any flack for labor. So to do all that and then sat no when they offer this great opportunity is hard. However taking a giant step back in my relationship and possibly losing her doesn't seem right either
Pleas offer any advice your have or even what you would do in the situation.. I understand no one can make a decision for me but im hoping to get others perspective. I also apologize for the horrible spelling and grammar lol. Thank you in advance !