I'll second that. Your husband needs to realize it's all about the kids. I don't know that we can help you change your husbands' outlook.
When I was about seven or eight I got decided to be a fussy eater one night. Like you, my mother went to a lot of effort to cook good meals.
When I said I wanted something else for dinner and wouldn't stop being a jerk about it, my father replied,
"Your mother went to a lot of effort to make this meal. It's good food and this is what we are having for dinner. If you don't want to eat it, don't. But there won't be anything else and you can go to bed without any supper".
I went to bed without any supper. The next night I ate everything in sight without complaint and I have never complained about a meal since.
My advice is to prepare for a major argument with the husband. Let him know he will be eating what you prepare. If he doesn't want to eat it, fine. But you will not prepare two meals. He can go without if he chooses. The same for everyone else. At the moment he's the biggest child at the table,.
He sounds like someone who doesn't know what real hunger feels like. Make one meal and that's it.
You could also print out these responses to help him understand this is not just your opinion.
When I was about seven or eight I got decided to be a fussy eater one night. Like you, my mother went to a lot of effort to cook good meals.
When I said I wanted something else for dinner and wouldn't stop being a jerk about it, my father replied,
"Your mother went to a lot of effort to make this meal. It's good food and this is what we are having for dinner. If you don't want to eat it, don't. But there won't be anything else and you can go to bed without any supper".
I went to bed without any supper. The next night I ate everything in sight without complaint and I have never complained about a meal since.
My advice is to prepare for a major argument with the husband. Let him know he will be eating what you prepare. If he doesn't want to eat it, fine. But you will not prepare two meals. He can go without if he chooses. The same for everyone else. At the moment he's the biggest child at the table,.
He sounds like someone who doesn't know what real hunger feels like. Make one meal and that's it.
You could also print out these responses to help him understand this is not just your opinion.
